| Letting Go of Past Fears, Failures and Resentments The Magic Door |
A famous show business personality was once asked to comment on the effect of
continually focusing on past resentments and negatives. "My wife and I," he said, "were offended by
something another couple had done. We held a grudge against them for 16 years. Then we found out that, while
we were busy holding the grudge, they were out dancing."
That story was told by a famous motivational speaker. He told that story and a few others to
make the point that when we fill our minds with past negatives of any sort, we continue to make
ourselves victims of the original event.
As in the example of the show business personality, no one else is being hurt. The other
couple either wasn't aware of, or didn't care about, their grudge. Their resentment might even have been
well justified at the time. But who benefits when we continue to hold the resentment in our minds day
after day, week after week, month after month, or longer? No one.
Who is hurt? We are. How? By choosing to focus on a negative, we fill our minds with
that negative. It permeates our spirit. It leaves less room, or in extreme cases no room at all, for focusing
on bright, positive possibilities. The negative doesn't have to be a grudge. It can be a failure, a fear, or
a negative perception about the way the world works and the chances we have for getting the things
we want.
If you're looking for a job and you've failed in the past, or if people haven't treated you properly,
or if you resent certain people or certain companies for what they've done or how they've done it, you
will open up more opportunities for yourself if you forget about them.
Simply by releasing them from your conscious focus, with an almost magical ease, you
effortlessly open up more room in your mind and imagination for positive future events.
In light of some of the emerging theories of our theoretical physicists, that statement is no longer
just well intentioned advice and speculation, and it certainly isn't magic. Rather, it is based on
solid scientific evidence and reasoning by many of our brightest minds, those quantum physicists who,
like Einstein, delve deeply into the question of how we experience events and objects in this physical
world of ours.
One of them, Fred Alan Wolfe, has written a few books that even ordinary people can understand.
In one of them, Parallel Universes, he points out that many theoretical physicists now agree with
the Everett-Wheeler-Graham Theory, first developed in 1957 and published in 1973. This theory
suggests that there are many parallel universes existing along with ours.
For years, these physicists had presumed that when the observer meets the "quantum wave" on
which "reality" rides, one point on that wave becomes the reality we experience, and all the others just cease
to exist. Now many of them agree that all those points continue to exist, and for each point on that
wave, there exists a different "probable" reality, experienced by a different "probable" observer.
The implications of their theories may seem bizarre to most of us, but they provide the best
answers to the puzzling questions raised by their experiments.
Those implications are that there are several versions of us, experiencing different probable worlds
... and just as strange to our everyday thinking, all the future versions of us are out there right now.
We connect up with one of them through our thoughts, expectations and beliefs, which guide our focus.
According to their theories, we bring about the world we experience by acting as a kind of
"focus mechanism." So if your focus is negative, full of fears, failures, resentments or other negatives, what
kind of future world do you suppose these physicists would predict that you'd "tune in to?"
And what if one of your "probable selves" succeeded in forgetting those negatives? If that version
of you focused instead on positive events from the past and expected the best in the future, what kind
of future would they predict for that "probable self?"
Going further, these physicists make a very hopeful and helpful observation. Your intersection
with all these probabilities is right here and right now. Just because you've been associated with a certain
past doesn't mean you must stick with it.
At any moment you can change what you're focusing on, and start to bring into focus a whole
new group of exciting, positive probabilities, eventually making one of them the world you experience. In
a very real sense, following these observations, the pull of the future can exert more influence than
the push of the past ... and you're free to focus on any future you like, regardless of what your past has
been like.
Admittedly it is difficult for most of us to think that way. Whether or not you accept
the implications of their theories as valid, though, you can still benefit by them. All you need do is put
aside your doubts and disbeliefs, temporarily pretend that things actually operate this way, and act accordingly.
If you do, you'll be doing precisely what is recommended by all the leaders in the field of
"positive thinking" and "positive imaging and affirmations," from Norman Vincent Peale 40 years ago to
Dr. Wayne Dyer today.
The findings of the physicists imply that you are setting up some sort of electromagnetic or
other connection to a specific future when you concentrate on it. The leaders in the field of positive
thinking don't attempt to explain it, but they too maintain that, in short, "you get what you concentrate upon."
The significance is, there is now plausible scientific theory behind the claims of the positive thinkers.
You can choose to dispute the theories, or try them out for yourself, to see if they have any
practical effects in your case. Why not try them out?
First flush out your negative beliefs, resentments and fears. Realize that they are just
your perceptions and beliefs, which can either be changed, ignored, or both. Choose to focus only on
positive events from the past, and choose to expect that you will experience positive events in the future.
Picture potential employers welcoming you with a warm smile and a handshake, attentively
listening to you describe the ways you can help them. Imagine phone conversations in which people comment
on your excellent background, then invite you in for interviews.
Go even further and visualize yourself actually working in a job that would be ideal for you.
Picture yourself achieving in your areas of strength ... setting and achieving high goals for whatever it is you do
... developing new systems, cutting costs, hiring other good people to work for you, creating
new approaches to problem-solving, winning new accounts, designing new information systems,
conducting enthusiastic meetings and more.
Whatever specifics you choose for your positive visualizations, work on them every day. They
create a continuous flow of positive energy and reinforcement that will give you a sense of newfound power
and confidence.
Put your positive expectations to work immediately. If someone tells you an interview will last
only 15 minutes, assume that it will be a highly positive 15 minutes, that 15 minutes is a long time for
a screening interview, that the interviewer will be interested and respond positively, and that it may
well extend past the 15-minute mark.
If you call after a good interview and get no response, instead of assuming they have lost
interest, assume that they are extremely busy, still very interested, but like most people, don't get back to
others when they say they will. Expect that they will call you as soon as their schedule permits. Assume
that the next meeting will be better than the first, and visualize positive greetings, dialogue, smiles, and
an offer.
What many people do not understand is that expectations can directly affect actions, which
affect results. In our example, the positive expectations will make it easier for you to write followup
notes letting the employer know your interest continues to grow, and that you're dedicated to doing
an outstanding job for them. In many instances such enthusiastic followup letters have resulted in
job offers.
As you fill your mind with positive beliefs, visualizations and expectations, you'll also find that
you automatically start to project a positive attitude to others. Just talking about your positive perspective
to others helps to reaffirm your commitment and attitude.
It will also tend to have you looking for ways to help and encourage others, promoting an
exchange of positive energy that builds even more momentum. Soon it becomes obvious to anyone who
meets you, that you project a certain positive confidence and a good feeling about yourself.
It goes beyond the mental aspects, and starts to show in the physical as well. You develop a spring
in your step, a firm handshake, a confident look in your eye, and your comments continually reveal
the positive outlook that's inside.
What happens then? People may not be able to put it in words, and they may not even realize
they are doing it, but you can be sure they will start to treat you differently. They will begin to think
more positively and creatively when they are around you. That, in turn, helps to create the kind of
environment where people make positive hiring decisions.
Why not get started now? Review "the contents of your mind" and screen for negatives.
Purposefully work to replace them with positives. If you find that difficult, click on the heading,
What Do I Bring to the Table?, and review the step-by-step exercises recommended there.
If you implement them, you'll find that with very little effort you can clear your mind for
more positive things, and with almost magical ease, open the door to more opportunities than you
realized existed.
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